Sadly I think there are those types of owners for every pet. Be it spiders, dogs, fish etc.Some people can deal with fast, defensive, potent spiders, and there are people that shouldn't own them. It has nothing to do with 'fear mongering'. It's best for the average person when they take it in stages and work their way up. EVERYONE gets spooked at first by big, fast moving, hairy spiders. There is NO amount of 'research' that can prepare anyone for the actual experience of having a tarantula run out of it's cage, up your arm, and on your back. A few guys (and it's always men) think they have to prove something and start off with advanced species. We see them come and go. They arrive with a lot of commotion, ask for advice, get mad, argue with us, buy some spiders way beyond their skill/experience level, it grows, they're afraid of it and want to sell it. A few guys every year follow this pattern.
These guys invariably don't take into account the people they live with and the family pets, or the people that come to visit them, and are convinced nothing will get loose and no one will get bit. What could go wrong, huh? This is not a race, there are no prizes for finishing first. People can have the respect and support of this forum by listening to experienced collectors and breeders and enjoy a long-term hobby, or they can be know-it-alls who make fools of themselves and usually don't last long.