Good news, she drank the water I put near her. So she is definitely thirsty. I'm going to keep dropping water around for a little and then try and feed her later.
From what I see they still have their pink toes. But she has most of her legs close to her body right now so I cant see well.Try to get a pic or look at the front legs/palps too. If the pedipalps lost their pink toes, it's a mature male.